For a brief moment I wanted to lash out, to overreact and attack a friend, all because I didn’t have enough information to make a solid decision. It took me a few days to digest what happened, not because I needed space but a break. I needed to step away and come back with fresh eyes.

How often do we really do that? Let’s be honest. In today’s world, getting upset and bent out of shape is faster than logically and rationally thinking it through. Thinking takes time and emotional energy we’d rather spend being upset and hurt.

I’ve often ended relationships before asking for forgiveness or questions that would’ve resolved the issue. If I had slowed down, asked a few questions, waited to get answers, and clarified my expectations, I imagine the relationship would’ve been healed and changed.

Instead of asking questions, why gravitate to anger? Why refuse to ask questions? Is it too hard to ask them? Or are we so intrinsically selfish that we can’t see past the nose on our own face? I think we pick and choose our battles based on how we feel. We choose to ignore the difficult. If it’s hard? Forget it. I’ll do ANYTHING but THAT.

The next time something comes up where I don’t have enough information, not enough data, I’ll ask questions. And if I’m upset, you can bet I’ll wait to say anything until I have enough questions answered to give an intelligent answer.